The Funeral I

The van sped through the busy thoroughfares of the city. As it went past people on scooters and cars averted their eyes - almost as if they were scared of being infected by the contents of the vehicle. And who could blame them? In spite of reading and hearing about death people were still worried that if they looked at the vehicle carrying the mortal remains they would in some waybe affected by death sooner or later. For those who came upon the van suddenly - there was no option but to run their hand over their heads ( so that they do not have bad dreams) and commend the soul of the departed - to God. The mood of the occupants accompanying the dead body was somber. One o two of them were weeping silently with tears coursing down their cheeks. Someone else was looking into the distance as if he could not be bothered about the whole issue of death. The garrulous one was relating the tales of the goodness of the dead person and extolling the virtues of that person. Once in a while he would break down in mid sentence and start wailing - "oh why did it have to happen? - Fate is cruel to good people - it is unbearable" - and then he would become hysterical. Until someone acknowledged his rantings and offered him water. Then he would again continue on and on - till some overwrought person told him to shut up. A mini fight would break out and someone would point out to them that this was not the place to air their grievances.

For sometime an uneasy peace would reign the vehicle. Then the practical one would speak up. " Did anyone remember to bring the death certificate from the doctor?" he would ask. The man of action would start getting riled up. Who was responsible for getting the death certificate? Why am I the only one to look after everything. Sure there has been a death - does not mean that you all behave like corpses - and then he would scream at the top of his voice to the driver to pull up to the side. In the meanwhile he has already nominated the most reliable person (in his opinion) to get out of the vehicle and hurry home to get the certificate. The whole vehicle is in an uproar. Added to this is the honking of the horns of the rush hour traffic. There is a general bedlam. The 'dear departed' is forgotten for the moment. Then a small voice from the front of the van - " I have the death certificate". Further recriminations follow - "why did you not say so before? - "Are you deaf or something"?- "You have always been inattentive in life". - "You are such an idiot"- "You are useless" - the general consensus about the youngster and his uselessness and idiocy quietens down the others. It is almost as if reaching this agreement put everyone in a good mood. The van resumes its journey to the graveyard. Not all are quiet though. The practical one is still at it. "I hope you have sent someone in advance to book the crematorium to book the cremation  plot".

A fresh  argument breaks out. " Why not the electric crematorium"? someone said. And then he goes on to extol the virtues of an electric crematorium as to how it is  more hygienic - no wood used - saves trees - good on the environment - and so on. Someone else says that the last wish of the dead person was to be cremated on the pyre and not in an electric crematorium. Again a heated argument breaks out . Finally someone who is more assertive says that irrespective of the last wishes it is better to use the electric crematorium. The others are by now too drained to argue further. It is finally decided that  the electric crematorium be used....

The van reaches the 'Smashan Ghat'. Immediately the van is surrounded by the touts. Someone screaming at providing the wood. Others offering the plot for burning the body and yet someone else offering the services of the priest. Everyone is rebuffed . The body is carried to the stone block outside the electric crematorium. They struggle as the person who died had a rather robust life and was quite heavy. There is general cursing as the body dips to one side being too heavy for the frail person in charge of that end of the crude stretcher. Someone else rushes to assist on that side. They reach the stone platform and somehow manage to dump the body unceremoniously on the platform. General panting all round. The accompanying priest begins his chants and the rituals. The eldest son carries out the required activities mechanically. As he finally circles the body he is told by the priest to shout in the ear - as if to ensure that the person is really passed away and wont come back from the pyre. The other brothers trailing behind the eldest also do the same - finally touching the feet before the body is consigned to the flames.The other relatives and friends, now having been unburdened have split into small groups talking among themselves. Someone is discussing the Pay commission in low tones while some others are talking about how they had made a similar trip to the ghat earlier. One among them is hailing the attendant at the crematorium in a familiar manner - it is obvious that he has been here earlier. Someone else in a predictive voice is talking about how they will have to be back here soon as their friend's father was on his way out.....

By now there is a general restlessness in the crowd. Why is it taking so long says someone. The man with his ear to the ground comes back with the information that there is a power cut. And that the power is not likely to be restored anytime soon. As soon as this information becomes public, everyone is talking at once. One of them is already on his mobile phone passing instructions to his underling that he will be late from the funeral and that, the shop should be opened to business, as he would get delayed. Once again the powers that be are in a huddle , discussing their next course of action. It is finally decided that the body will be burnt on the pyre.

It looks like the dead person has had its own way - one last time.....

Meanwhile....

The rate of firewood had gone up dramatically - as had the price of the plot for burning and the cost of oil and ghee. Not to be left behind the priest has also raised his price as he was to have gone to a wedding and that if he had to stay he should be suitably compensated. Now began the most sordid part of the whole affair - bargaining over the dead body. Voices were raised and finally came down a few octaves as the people started cajoling the touts. an acceptable remuneration was finally arrived at for all concerned . Things start moving at a rapid pace thereafter. Within no time the body is on the pyre and the flowers and wreaths are out of the way. The body is covered with wood . The grieving children see the familiar face for one last time. The memory will linger for sometime - before the only thing remaining would be the photographs of happier times....

Return Of The Swamiji II

My sister is based in London. She has been there for many years. Her children were born and brought up in London. And time passed ... Now my niece has grown up. She is getting married – to a Belgian boy – based in London – whose parents are in Paris. If that is not internationalism then what else can it be? To cut a long story short, me and my sister (not the one in London) were sponsored by my sister (the one in London) to attend the marriage. Preparations , Visa and other formalities consumed all my time. The trip was eventful and refreshing. Soon it was time to return to India. On my return to India and to my job (mundane) a missive was waiting for me from my dad to pick him up  from Haridwar. As I drove down to Haridwar my mind went back to that eventful night of my course get together in Shimla. I fondly remembered meeting all my course mates.

The pleasant weather of Shimla at that time of the year set the tone for a memorable   get together . It was – as happens when a large gathering of like minded people meet – very noisy. Someone was commenting on the changed physiological appearance of someone else. Others were discussing the achievements of their children very proudly. Those whose children did not do well were listening quietly with a hangdog expression on their faces. Those among us who were posted in good places were dropping names of senior officers and how well they knew them ( Oh Gen So and So does not like to use the toilet if there are lizards in it - He eats only oats for dinner - he is very pliable  and so on). And how they were instrumental in bringing monumental changes in the services. Once in a while there was a loud cheer with the arrival of the late comers. Time had not dimmed the memories of the travails of the past. Shrill grating laughter interspersed this pandemonium as some lady or the other remembered some rib tickling incident of the past involving the course mates. Yet others were proudly discussing their diabetes, Apnoea and other acquired diseases. As the course mates remembered those who passed away, people put on solemn faces and then broke out of it by having another drink.I also joined the conversations wholeheartedly. But my mind was elsewhere. Today was going to be a defining moment in my life.

One of our course mates had pursued an entirely different line after leaving the army. He had become a Swamiji. I was looking for answers and I was sure I would get them from him. Since sometime he was unavailable . The press had unfairly labelled him  a womaniser . After clearing his name he was perturbed with the allegations and had left for the Himalayas to pray. Though there was no announcement about his impending return I was sure that he would come for the reunion. As the reunion started winding down – when people had nothing more to talk about – and it seemed that my sixth sense had let me down,as if by common assent , there was a hush in the hall. It was as if something momentous was about to happen. The Swamiji had arrived. There was no fanfare and neither was any announcement made. But suddenly he was there as if he had manifested himself out of thin air. His long sojourn in the Himalayas had made him lean and thin – and it suited his tal frame. Whereas most of us had greyed over the last thirty two years with no hope of redemption, he still had a full head of black hair. All of us graduated towards him as if being pulled on a string. The awkwardness hung over all of us. What had been a lively party fizzled out with a whimper. Though he was our course mate, what do we speak in front of a man of God?

Anyhow we need not have feared. As soon as the Swamiji saw us his face broke out in a smile. As was customary among course mates we all hugged. Naturally he preferred water to anything else. The ice was broken and the pace of conversation picked up again. But now most of the conversation was directed against the Swamiji. “What made you renounce the world?” why did you leave such a lucrative career in the army?” Do you not miss the camaraderie in the army?”

And as happens inevitably in such a gathering, the talk turned towards the alleged intransigencies the Swamiji committed towards a female disciple... I held my breath and expected the Swamiji to curse us all to suffer the ignominies of this world and the next. In spite of such pointed questions the Swamiji was very serene and replied to all the questions with equanimity. As the night advanced people started leaving in ones and twos. Finally my time with the Swamiji was at hand. He knew. I could see that he knew the troubled state of my mind. Without a preamble he came to the point. “ I know that you have been troubled”,he said; “Into everyone’s life some rain must fall. But whatever troubles you have, are perceived . I know” he said lifting up his hand as I started protesting his belittling my problems, “ that you are having apprehensions about assimilating what I am saying – but do you remember how when we were in the academy and use to curse the instructors when they used to give us punishment – and we were denied the pleasure of watching a movie? – at that time nothing else could be more worse in life than this denial of small pleasures in life. Now we laugh about it and in fact it helps us relieve the tedium of an otherwise mundane life. At different times in our life the parameters of our troubles keep changing. It is in these trying times that we have to maintain our equanimity and and ride out the rough times”. What he said a lot of sense to me.   

That night quite a few of us stayed with the Swamiji to listen to his mellifluous and soothing voice. We asked questions and he answered. Whether it be about an offspring a wife or a daughter he tried to assuage the fears of each one of us. We talked for a long time and did  not realise the advanced hour till the Swamiji told me that it was time for him to prepare for his morning prayers.

What with the excitement of having met my course mates after a long time and spending the rest of the time speaking with the Swamiji I woke up late the next day. The memories of the previous night came flooding back. First the meeting with the course mates and then the interaction with the Swamiji. All that he told me made more sense during the daylight. But many more questions were still unanswered. How should I now go about with my life now was one of the questions plaguing my mind. How do I tackle the tensions and problems that life would throw at me? These thoughts mobilised me into action. I required answers and the only one who could help me out was around somewhere. I went through my morning ablutions in a hurry and went looking for the Swamiji. But no one knew where he was and how he could be found. The last sighting was in the night. The Swamiji had left. Just as he had come in unannounced, he had also left without any announcement. I was left feeling unfulfilled. At the same time I was better prepared to handle the challenges . I was also determined to meet the Swamiji . Again.

Now as I was heading to Haridwar  to pick up my dad I hoped that I would have time to seek out the Swamiji...... I heard he was back at his Ashram in Dehradun.....        

The Return Of The Swamiji I

I was looking forward to our course meet. 32 years had passed since we took the last step on our way to serve in this gigantic army. Along the way some of my course mates got married - and procreated early.They were the cause of envy of many of our other friends who by comparison had younger children and were staring retirement in the face. Understandably they were worried about settling their children. Others realized in the midst of serving the nation that army was not for them . They carried out a mid course correction and joined the civil stream. They were also doing well for themselves.Many like me consciously continued serving in the army. Amongst us many retired without achieving their full potential - either due to laziness or due to the fact that they took a stand against irresponsible and pig headed seniors and refusing to toe the line. I had not met many of my friends after being commissioned. The get together promised to rectify this anomaly.

One person I was most anxious to meet was the person who I was not even sure would attend. But something told me that he would be there today - call it intuition or sixth sense. And that was the reason that I was looking forward to this meet.

Once in a while life takes a funny turn. While most of my other course mates were involved in the humdrum of daily life my friend went on a totally different track altogether. Even while in the academy he was known for his intensity and determination to see a task to its end. What brought us together was that we both belonged to the same platoon and were neighbours. Over a period of time we became close friends. After the academy we drifted apart . An occasional phone call in the beginning and a sporadic call were all that kept us in touch. He joined the infantry and I joined the aviation. To top that he joined the special forces. Any how life limped along . I got married and my two children were the cynosure of my eyes. With the advent of the mobile I thought that we would be in communication to a larger extent. But my hopes were belied . If anything we were more distant from each other. Probably early in life he saw the futility of killing and watching his close friends fall one by one along the way. I realised that something was different when the next time we spoke . “ I am planning to leave the ‘fauj’ Suraj”; he said. "When I see the suffering around me – I want to help alleviate it. And I am not talking about poverty and other associated problems. I am talking about mental health and problems created by loss of mental stability". Part of me wanted to dissuade him from taking such a drastic step so early in life while the other part of my brain informed me of the futility of such a fatuous  argument. Be that as it may I knew that he was set on doing something drastic.

It was a long wait for me to hear about him. And then the news was far more shocking than I could ever imagine. My friend had made a name for himself , and his ashram was in  the foothills of the Himalayas at  Dehradun.. He was fondly known as the Swamiji. His reputation was very good and people from all strata of the society visited him for seeking solace for their problems. My desire to meet him did not arise for quite some time. But all along I was keeping a track of his activities.

Personal problems have a way of intruding upon your daily life in such a manner that by the time you disentangle yourself from them you would find that the world has gone by and that you have a lot of catching up to do. My father was already in an ashram in Haridwar. Since my problems were refusing to sort themselves out I decided to take a break to visit my father to get away from it all. My father is a no nonsense  man . And he roundly criticised me for being stupid and incapable of dealing with my inadequacies. A few days in Haridwar and I felt that I needed a new perspective towards life. It was then that I remembered my friend . The idea which started off as thought slowly took root in my mind very quickly. I had to meet him.

The next day saw me speeding towards Dehradun in my car. My mood was uplifted at the thought of meeting my friend and course mate – and more importantly, The Swamiji, after such a long time. What would he be like? Would he make me feel welcome? Or would there be awkwardness between us? How would I broach upon  my problems? Soon afterwards I was in Dehradun . I was quite wary about about the reception I would get at the Ashram. The Ashram was away from the main city with no indication as to its whereabouts except for the fact that one had to deduce that in a uninhabited area the populace was heading only in one direction. Further inquiries proved that I was on the right course. The ashram occupied a huge area. Since it was still early in the day, the congregation was yet to begin. The volunteers were seating the people quietly in front of a huge podium. The subdued and pious atmosphere affected the children also. Some of the restless ones were crying in undertones. I was immediately struck by the discipline shown by the people. Unlike other religious/ prayer congregations that I visited in my life, here I found people sitting quietly and with dignity.

Prior to meeting my friend – the Swamiji – I decided to attend the congregation. Somehow the fact that my friend had become a Guru was something I still could not digest . I had to see it for myself. After waiting for a short time I could feel the undercurrent of excitement travel through the crowd. Chantings of “Swami, Swami, Swami......” first started on a subdued note and slowly the frenzy of seeing the Swamiji in person took over as the chants grew louder and louder. I held my breath. Would he be in saffron robes? Would he have a long and venerable beard? – These were some of the thoughts that were going on in my mind. Soon the Swamiji arrived on the stage. He looked totally different from what I had visualised. He appeared much shorter and he sounded different.

My spirits sank and I was under the misapprehension that I had come to the wrong Ashram. But the way the Swamiji spoke compelled me to continue to listen to him. Soon it was my turn to meet the Swamiji. When I went to him and mentioned to him that I was a friend of the Swamiji who was also my course mate he told me that the Swamiji left for the Himalayas for Meditation. However Swami Guruvananda invited me to stay in the ashram as long as I desired. A few days later after an intense course of meditation I left for my home.

Now we were meeting as a course. Though there was no intimation of the Swamiji attending the get together I was sure that he would be there. I was looking forward to meeting him....

Choices

The day when she was prematurely released from the hospital would forever be etched in her mind for times to come. When her daughter told her that Neeraja's father passed away she was struck dumb. She did not know what to say or do. Tears eluded her and thus the emotional release she craved for was denied to her. All she could remember was her silent castigation of her dad when he did not visit her in the hospital when she was ill. Little did she realise  that her dad was in no condition to visit her during her hospitalisation. She went through the rituals of appeasing her father's soul like an automaton. Her life as it was had reached the nadir. Now the only recourse left for her was to bring some normalcy into her otherwise shattered existence. One thought was foremost in her mind - she would never ever let herself slide back into the depths of helplessness again. To this end she embraced her continuing treatment wholeheartedly. She set herself small goals . It was like learning to walk again. Soon she started reintegration into normal life. One day at a time was her motto . Somehow she could never regain the relationship with her daughter. Their conversation was stilted and  and awkward. The mental breakdown reared its ugly head in their relationship.

As time passed her daughter became more reticent about her activities. So it was no surprise when she brought home Vangipurapu Narayan Rao and introduced her to her mother as her life partner. Neeraja was shocked at her daughters decision. But then she rationalised thinking that her daughter was very much capable of making her own decisions. With a pang she knew that it was only a matter of time before her daughter left home.

The marriage was a quite affair. Her brothers were still not on talking terms with her. But now it had to do more with inheritance than with the past intransigencies. Sadly Neeraja realised that life would now be full of such tensions with no buffer between her and the workings of the world. 

Her son on the other hand was not improving. Having cleared his intermediate exams he was becoming more erratic and uncontrollable. When he got bored at home he resorted to violence against his mother thrashing her black and blue. The thing was it seemed like he enjoyed beating her up. Soon Neeraja dreaded meeting her son. She started avoiding him and only came out of her room to cook and clean up when the boy was out of the house.

Finally in desperation she contacted Dr Shiv Narayan Sharma. That too when Ramona hounded her over the phone to do so. ShivNarayan indicated to her that she should put her son in the National institution for mentally handicapped. Neeraja thought long and hard about the possibility of putting her son in the programme . On the one hand her maternal instincts were aroused and she pictured her boy lonely and helpless in an alien environment and on the other hand she wondered how long she would be able to bear the physical abuse her son was meting out to her. In the end she decided that if her son continued to stay at home then it would not be long before she would succumb to the physical abuse - the consequences of which would be too terrible for her son.  Her maternal instinct for the safety of her child and her own desire to survive in this world to see her son settle down to do something worthwhile won out . It was with a heavy heart that she bid adieu to her son.  Her son was actually happy to leave home and visit new places. But then mothers will be mothers.
Neeraja was now all alone. Time hung heavy on her hands. She was at loss to do something gainful. Though she taught the impoverished children in the school her father had established, it was the rest of the time in which she had nothing to do which bothered her. She made efforts to get back into the daily activities of  the apartments - but the apartment dwellers still looked on her with suspicion and distrust. She backed out of this project voluntarily. The idle time played havoc with her mind and there were times when she contemplated suicide. To be embraced by the welcoming arms of death seemed to here as a viable option. She smiled remembering the old adage " An idle mind is a devil's workshop";  There was a time when she would complain about the immense amount of trouble her children used to put her to.Now she hated being alone with nothing to do .When these attacks became severe she was forced to re-examine all her options, in sheer desperation.

During a conversation in the past she recollected someone mentioning the Ashram of Swamiji in Deharadun. He was reputed to be a no nonsense person who was caring and sincere. He was known to be particularly good with people having mental issues. After a  lot of contemplation she finally decided that since there was nothing to hold her back at home , this seemed to be the best option. Having dealt with all her pending issues she left for the Ashram in the hope that it would provide her with the elusive mental peace that she so much craved for.....

Recovery

She hated the incarceration at the hospital. And she fought it every inch of the way. She gave a hard time to the nurses and at one point of time she remembered biting one of them. Not that they were very sympathetic towards her. It was like no other hospital she had been to before in her life. Through the nights , the attacks of terror continued. She felt sorry for herself and for her poor lonely children at home. This did not deter her from being a difficult patient. She only ate the hospital food when she felt weak from hunger. She craved for something sweet . She had a sweet tooth and her cravings became worse as the days passed. By the third day her non cooperation became a major irritant for the hospital staff.She was left alone. Not even her daughter was allowed to visit her .This solitude somehow gave her time to reflect on her actions in the past few months. finally she started coming to terms with the fact that something was seriously wrong with her. The sheer frustration of the solitude made her want to end it all. She was handicapped by the fact that she was under constant observation - and even if she wanted to do something drastic she did not find anything suitable to assist her in ending her life.

By the sixth day she realised that the only way she could get out of this hell hole was to submit to the treatment. She indicated as much to the nurse who came to check her vitals. But when they started treating her she rebelled. She could not help herself.

The doctors finally decided that the only way to treat her was to submit her to shock therapy. That morning Neeraja was treated extra nicely. The nurse led her to a room where she was suddenly immobilised and tied dowm . She felt something like headphones being placed over her head. Then she felt extreme pain and her body loosening up all over . The last thing she remembered was the horrible smell of burning flesh - and then she lost consciousness. When she came to the nurse shoved some pills in her mouth - and held her nose closed until she gagged and swallowed the pills.
She came to dread the shock treatment. Her whole time was spent dreading the next shock therapy.
As the time passed - rather than suffer further  shock treatment she started cooperating with the hospital staff and submitted to the oral treatment. Slowly but surely she was put on the path to recovery. Now her daughter came to visit her regularly and brought her home cooked food. In spite of all these happenings her brothers never came to visit her. She  accepted the fact that they were a thing of past. But what did hurt her was that her father never came to visit her. When she was a growing girl, Neeraja was her father's favourite .Now in spite of suffering her father maintained a continued silence.

The treatment had eased off and all that it now contained of was a few pills in the morning and night and group therapy to condition her to ease into normal day to day routine , once she got out of the hospital. She looked forward to getting out. She had spent about 45 days in the hospital. And the atmosphere at the hospital was starting to pall on her. Her release came sooner rather than later. That day her daughter came to the hospital looking rather grim and puffy eyed. Neeraja did not dare to ask her daughter what was wrong. But she felt it intuitively. She felt terrible and all sort of thoughts were running in her mind - the foremost being something was wrong with her son.

She berated herself silently for not cooperating with the doctors earlier. She would then have been home much earlier. Now because of her stupidity her release was inordinately delayed. While she was letting her imagination run wild her daughter came to inform her that she was going home. The time had come for Neeraja to take that final step to recovery - re integrate into the day to day humdrum of daily life.

It was when she was with her daughter in the cab that her daughter started crying. Neeraj's relief at being released was short lived. She wanted to reach out to her daughter to comfort her . But her memories of hospitalisation and the daughter's behavior prior to hospitalisation came in the way . Finally her daughter said " It is grand father - he passed away this morning...

Incarceration

Bouts of paranoia interspersed with moments of sanity. That is how she remembered her path to recovery. In her heart she knew that she had rubbed a lot of people the wrong way. She could not recollect much that had happened. She did remember though, that as time passed she did not like going out of the house. It was her poor daughter who had to bear the brunt of all the work. At times she was very nasty with her going so far as to imply that the girl was involved in secret trysts with her boyfriends. Even as she made these unreasonable accusations she knew that she was wrong. But she could not stop herself. It was as if something external was controlling her. She felt a sadistic pleasure when she accused her,  reveling in her daughter's discomfiture.

She also had recollections of unreasoning terror - during the nights - when everything had fallen silent and the whole city was sleeping. Fear that she was being spied upon. That she was being overheard and that the aerials outside her house controlled the radio waves emanating from her house. She would suddenly wake up in the night to bouts of terror, screaming silently. Things had reached a stage where she started suspecting her neighbours of being part of this whole spying game.
When she first moved into the apartments she was welcomed as a young widow with two children to bring up. Everyone was sympathetic to her and would go out of their way to help her. Soon she developed excellent rapport with all of them. She was particular about her surroundings and ensured that the menials did their job properly. So much so that the apartment dwellers were only too happy to appoint her the secretary of the society. Her husband's past contacts were also very helpful and assisted her in getting a job in a semi government organisation. This helped augment her savings and look after her children.As the time passed her children grew up. And along with it her fears. As she looked at it, her daughter would find her life partner and soon go away. She would be isolated and left alone to look after her son. Her greatest fear was - what if she fell ill? Then who would look after her son? These negative thoughts kept her awake during the long winter nights, affecting her work and her sang froid. Would her neighbours be as patient with her as they were now? Would her friends come to meet her as before? What would happen when she got old?

All these thoughts and the helplessness of the situation made her lose sleep. Soon she started becoming depressed. Her stomach was always in a tight knot. Everything she did - every interaction she had - somehow did not feel right. In her depression she started eating more and more and put on weight. She started doubting every single action of people around her and started picking up fights with her neighbours. She accused them - illogically - of plotting to rob her. Her fears progressively grew worse and she stopped going out of the house even to buy vegetables and daily necessities. She trusted no one. At home things were no better. She doubted her daughter and ignored her son. This led to frequent fights. Over a period of time the quarrels got more and more bitter.

Then on that fateful day Ramona came to visit her. Ramona her classmate from school. Of all the classmates only Ramona kept in touch with her. It was probably because they both went to college together. But on that day she could only feel bitterness for Ramona. Neeraja felt that everything was going right for Ramona. She had moved abroad, had cute children and a loving husband. The thoughts just would not go away. Finally she told Ramona that she had come to rob her jewelry and that she was a witch. The shocked look on Ramona's face only made her want to hurt Ramona more. Somewhere in the recesses of her mind she knew that what she was doing was wrong. One part of her grieved at her own stupidity in ruining a perfectly good relationship and the other exulted in her new found ability to look at things independently. The outcome was far from satisfactory though - Ramona made her excuses and left early.

A few days later another of her classmates, Dr Shiv Narayan Sharma came to visit her. Along with him was Venkatswamy. At first she was puzzled as to why they were visiting her after such a long time. It was almost 30 Years since she saw them both at the passing out from the school. Any how they clarified that they were passing by and had dropped in to say hello. Neeraja thought it odd but she let it go. After they left she did not remember much about what they talked. Her life since then was restricted to the confines of her home.

This time she was in a murderous rage.The origins of her fight with her daughter slipped her mind. But what she did remember was that she wanted to beat sense into her daughter. To this end she started belaboring her daughter mercilessly - that is - until her daughter locked herself in her room. While she was contemplating as to how to get at her daughter and complete the task of knocking sense into her, she heard the doorbell ring. Dr Shiv Narayan and Venkataswamy were again making a visit . She was civil with them and looked in askance at this visit of theirs. Venkataswamy told her that since during the last visit when she told him about her diabetes, they had found a good reliable doctor who would help her work on controlling her disease. Though she did not buy their story, with much persuasion Neeraja agreed to go to the doctor. Her daughter was called from her room and they proceeded to go to the doctor.

Neeraja knew that something was not right when she saw conspiratorial looks pass between her daughter and her classmates. That is when she decided to jump out of the moving transport. The difference between her thought and her action was minimal. She felt the shock of pain as she landed on the road. In spite of her wanting to run away from the spot she could not do so. Her legs were paining.As she consistently refused to go further in spite of her daughter and her friends insistence. Just as her classmates all but gave up her daughter walked up to her and slapped her hard on the face. All her daughter's pent up frustration came to the fore and translated itself into that powerful backhanded slap. Neeraja could taste blood on her lips. Possibly the shock of her dear gentle daughter turning violent did something for Neeraja. She quietly got into the vehicle and  the journey was resumed. The last thing she remembered was that she was being dragged into the hospital kicking and screaming.

Friends

Neeraja's behaviour was causing concern to her friend Ramona. However due to her impending trip abroad she is unable to do much. Then she remembered that Another classmate of hers and Neeraja's, Dr Shiv Narayan Sharma was in town. If anyone could be of help it would him - considering that he was a renowned Psychiatrist. Read on ......


Dr Shiv Narayan Sharma was in deep thought. His mind was wandering aimlessly. But foremost on his mind was the thought about how much he hated people with tonsured heads. It was beyond him to understand why people shaved their heads. When he had worked in the gynaecology ward he used to detest new born babies who had no hair on their heads. Their whole aspect was one of an evil goblin. In addition to hatred of bald heads, it was his biggest grouse that as he was growing older he too was losing his hair. One of his worst  fears was that he would frighten himself to death one day when he woke up and looked at his image unexpectedly in the mirror. His Peladophobia would be the death of him.

Then his mind refocused on the problem at hand . Ramona - called to request him to have a look at another classmate of theirs - Neeraja - whose behaviour at best could be termed as erratic. Ramona  was very sketchy with the details. This was quite frustrating but the problem piqued Dr Sharma's curiosity. On the one hand he was angry that he was left holding the baby and on the other he was alarmed that a classmate of his was unwell and required help. He gave a sigh and went inside to call Neerajas daughter to find out what exactly was the problem. The girl seemed relieved that finally someone was taking interest in her problems. Not withstanding the girl's narrative Dr Sharma decided to visit Neeraja to gain an insight into her problem. He had not met her in thirty years and was wondering as to how he would explain his sudden manifestation to Neeraja. Then he remembered that another of their classmates , Venkataswamy was in town on a holiday to meet his relatives. It would be a good idea to take Venkatswamy along. There was always safety in numbers...

Venkatswamy and Dr Sharma , had kept in touch over the years. They made it a point to meet every time that Venkataswamy was in town.Once in a while (the dirty men they were) they used to leer at attractive girls.After explaining the problem to Venkatswamy it was decided that both of them would visit Neeraja.

Venkat's Narrative

When Shiv told me that we needed to meet Neeraja I was naurally surprised. We had not met her in thirty years. I did not understand the good doctor's sudden desire to meet her after such a long time. On the appointed day, while we were travelling to Neeraja's house he told me the whole story as gleaned from Ramona. He said that all his training indicated that Neeraja was suffering from a psychotic episode. In any case we would find out soon enough.We reached her place in due time and as we reached her place , her daughter opened the door. We were struck by the uncanny resemblance that the young girl bore to her mother. We were transported back in time. On introducing ourselves the questioning look on the girl's face cleared up. She let us in . The house was tastefully decorated and pleasant. The girl then started telling us how a few months back her mother started behaving erratically. We were soon to have a first hand experience of this aspect, when Neeraja walked in .
At first it was all okay, She remembered us from school and insisted that we have muffins and tea, And when we demurred she became rather insistent and became aggressively hospitable. Then to gain her confidence we talked a bit about school and then she asked us in a rather pointed manner as to why we were there. While we were deciding as to how best to reply to her she called her daughter and told her to close the windows as she feared that all the antennae outside were being used to spy on her and her visitors. Then she asked us to talk in low tones so that no one could hear us. She also told us that she could not switch on the fans as the ash which was on them would come down upon us. That something was wrong was never in doubt . But what it was, was what the good doctor had to analyse through his diagnostic skills.

When we left the doctor confided in me that all the symptoms pointed to paranoid schizophrenia. At the moment we needed to chalk out a plan to induce her to go to a hospital. As to when that would be was anybody's guess.... That moment came sooner than we thought it would. That day morning the daughter called Dr Shiv Narayan . The call was desperate. The girl told the doctor that at the moment she was locked up in her room as her mother was attacking her over some minor argument that they had had that day. The Doctor called me immediately and we went to Neeraja's place immediately. The problem as analysed by the doctor was to persuade Neeraja to go to the hospital, In her present state of mind this seemed impossible. We chalked out a plan whereby one of us would gain the trust of Neeraja and ensure her going to the hospital. The plan worked to an extent - in that Neeraja did get into the auto Rickshaw but on finding out that she was going to the hospital, immediately jumped out in the middle of a very busy intersection.

Desperate situations demanded desperate measures. And this was one of them as by now a crowd had gathered to witness this unexpected drama which was developing on the road. People thought that it was a case of spousal abuse and were shouting encouragement to the lady to make a break for it while she had a chance.The situation was becoming desperate and we knew that it would not be long before someone decided to call the law enforcement agencies. So while one of us was explaining to the crowd that it was a trivial matter, the other, with much persuasion and threats  somehow convinced her that we were visiting someone and managed to get her into the auto rickshaw. In the autorickshaw it was a matter of clinging on to her for dear life to prevent her from making the great escape again. Much to our relief and that of everyone concerned she was finally committed to the hospital. The treatment was not easy. She was pretty far gone and extreme measures had to be resorted to for bringing her back on track. She was an uncooperative patient. The treatment which involved a series of shocks and medicines. It was a very tense time for all of us. Especially for the daughter. Who had no one to depend upon.Finally after a month Neeraja was released from the hospital completely cured of her affliction. I am sure she had some introspection to do - as to what she had to do with her life from now on....